I know (once again), I haven't been blogging here much. I wanted to share a post from my personal blog, to let you all know what has been going on in the life of this second woman blogging...
We lost Mark's dad this weekend to lung cancer, just five weeks after we learned of the diagnosis. I don't believe in an afterlife. I don't know that he's in a better place now. I do know that he's no longer in pain: not in the physical pain that ended his life, nor in the mental and spiritual pain he lived his life with.
But I do believe in a kind of reincarnation, a version of karma: not a literal version, but a metaphoric one. I believe that we live on, in our beauty and our baseness, through our children. And we lead good lives not in the hope that we will reap the rewards, but that they will start off a little ahead, a little healthier, a little more spiritual, or in some cases just a little less neglected and abused than we were.
My father-in-law's sins may have been visited on his son; the son is, like the father was, an addict. But my husband reaped the rewards of his father's triumphs; my father-in-law's struggles, however misguided at times, to better himself have borne fruit in his son's wise mind, caring heart and dedication to recovery. My husband is a good man, who is becoming a better, more beautiful man every day, and that's the most meaningful tribute I think his father could ever have.
Mark is away at his father's funeral now. I hope to return to Two Women Blogging after he returns next week.